This testimonial is written on the looong journey back to Norway. It is the perfect time to mentally summarize my study year abroad in Sydney, whereby five months were spent in the SOA community of “exceptionally great men”. My handle on the forum is “Happy” and I am 24 years old.

First I want to say a little bit about where I was coming from. In terms of abilities with women I would rate myself average. I came from a tricky place, though. I was decently successful with women during my last “single” period up until I was 20 years old. I saw my game as narrow in terms of needing alcohol to have the confidence to pick up, but I did get a lot of make outs and occasionally also sex. The women that I hooked up with was usually not of the calibre that I wanted to go any further with them. I did get a girlfriend, though, that I enjoyed spending time with and made it worthwhile going of the market for.

2,5 years later (December 2010) we broke up and I was single again. In the mean time something had happened. I had been forced to drastically lower my alcohol consumption because of a medical condition that had occurred. This meant that my old game plan of getting intoxicated before chatting up birds was impossible and I had to start doing things sober. I did some approaches here and there when being out, but I was not very consistent with what I did. I was using ideas from Neil Strauss and David DeAngelo, which did not pay of well. I realise now that the main problem was that I was not confident about the fact that I had to present canned material to attract women.

By misinterpreting DeAngelos material I was overusing the cockey part in his cockey-funny mindset. I tended to repel girls that were attracted to me rather than to close them. My confidence with women was not good – especially in the bar/night club market. I knew that things needed to change.

I joined School of Attraction’s phone game seminar in late June, and wanted to meet some pick up guys that I could go out with and have a symbiotic friendship with as wingmen. I ended up talking to a School of Attraction guy that was a couple of weeks into the course and said: “Hey dude, if you’ve got the money sign up for it!” Seeing [name removed] speak to a crowd in a passionate way and seeing how passionate he was for coaching made an impression on me, but still – I thought it was way too much money. After a week of seriously thinking about it and also going out three times with people I met at the seminar made me sign up. As a student, this was/is a whole lot of money for me, but I was never in doubt that I would look back on the experience not regretting it when I submitted the payment. I knew that I would have it in me to take on this challenge with getting the most out of it. I also knew that I had it in me to push myself outside my comfort zone, but I needed a safe environment were I could get encouragement and support along the way. I take the hat of to people going on this journey on their own, but for me it would be too hard to start out with.

I expected that I would have to do all the hard work myself, but that there would be a community of people to help me out, and a coach that wanted me to succeed and would help me out wherever possible. That is exactly what my experience has been so far after five months. School Of Attraction does not seem to attract people that go for the quick fix of getting good with women. The quick fix does not exist. Most people, myself included, see the program as a way of creating new habits for oneself in terms of pushing oneself and going places one has not been before. From now on I do not see myself not trying to develop in any desired way in life. For now it is mostly about getting better with women, but that will probably change in the future. The point is that I have created a habit for myself were I don’t accept mediocrity where I know I can and want to get better.

During the period of the course my confidence with women increased a lot and I felt a gradual increase of skills even though there were some downs every now and then. The toughest part for me so far was right after the last practical. During the course it was easy to push myself in between the practicals to go out a lot, because I wanted to show myself that I had improved between every practical. When I did not have any regular practicals to go to it felt like the air went a little bit out of the balloon and it was really hard to motivate myself. That was when I decided that this was a crucial part of my journey and that I would face my issues and work even harder. I really pushed myself in terms of going out when it was the last thing in the world that I wanted to do. The result of that was that I got through the tough period with an even more increased confidence and very slowly more and more pieces started to fall into place. Looking back on my experiences lately would be jaw dropping for myself 6 months ago. I am in a really good place right now in terms of relating to women and it feels [censored word removed] good!

As most other people, I realised after a couple of months what I really wanted out of the path that I was going. In the beginning it was all about pulling girls, whereas now I know that the most important thing is to end up with a girl that I would be proud of and excited about spending the rest of my life with.

Is it worth the money? What I have written so far have hopefully been a give away – it has been/will be worth every cent. The fact that I paid what I paid has probably contributed a lot to my commitment to keep pushing myself when times get tough. My behaviours around women and in other parts of my life have definitely changed. Before I made a lot of excuses for not going 100% for a girl, whereas now I push every interaction as far as possible. I don’t believe in living life by playing it safe, which has lead to a lot of ups and some downs. My mentality now is that I am not that outcome dependent, but rather get a kick of trying to go further with an interaction. I don’t overanalyse things, but rather give an issue some thinking if it is a recurring thing.

For me, working on something that I know that I should be working on is the best way of generating happiness. “Getting better with women” is a goal that I have now, and is more a general focus point in life rather then a specific achievable one. Working with and towards something on a regular basis has boosted my sense of self and my level of happiness. My psychology and mental healthiness have never been better. Up to several people have lately commented on that they can tell that I am in a good place right now from the energy that I am radiating. Nothing is better to hear then that.

I can give SOA a lot of the credit for where I am right now and how I am feeling. I would not have been there without SOA. I have seen with my own eyes the transformations a lot of SOA guys, people that I am proud to call friends, have gone through. It is just amazing. Don’t expect to get there by doing the minimum requirements, though. Consistency with going out and setting up short term smart goals for yourself will get you there in time.

Personally, joining this community is one of the best decisions I have ever made.

Great coaching, great community, life changing experience

By the end of the course, I was sparking new conversations with women without hesitation, was quick witted and had made a genuine connection in only a few minutes nearly every time. Having these genuine connections and long conversations allowed me to know a lot more about the woman I was meeting, and afforded me the luxury of making more informed decisions on who I wanted to pursue a date with.

More importantly, I was having fun and what seemed like a daunting task to go out and meet women suddenly became more enjoyable and fun experience. Thank you again!

After completing the course, a majority of students, mentors and coaches are tight…, our community, friendships and bonds are strong and therefore the improvement goes beyond completion of the course!! One of SOAs strengths is the motivation behind each person in the community; you see them constantly out; organising outings to go out and work on this stuff, giving advice from their experiences and contributing information into the community. I am confident that if I go out to a popular night club, I will come across SOA guys, even if I didn’t plan ahead and organise a friend, I know ill always find one there. This is gold!!